Is it selfish to make time for yourself?
May 21, 2020More than likely you’ve heard that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.
We nod and we laugh
And yet we’ve all got places where we’re doing the same ole thing and still expecting breakthrough.
It seems easy to stop the insanity yet we can’t.
One of the biggest reasons is:
“I don’t have time for myself”
Many even call it selfish.
Life is so full already. We don’t have a leftover moment to ourselves.
We’re juggling work and kids, and then due to no fault of our own, we just got tasked — both unexpected and unwelcome — with stay-in-place orders and home school.
Under the weight of all that we can’t do it all. We can’t be the perfect wife, perfect mother, perfect employee, and a perfect teacher. All at the same time.
Then these kids want to eat, so now we’re the Cafeteria worker and somehow having to keep up with clutter and a clean house.
"Something has got to give, God! We can’t do this."
He knows.
Jesus visited a woman just like us, she’s tending to everything and everyone.
And it wasn’t fair. It wasn’t fair that NO ONE in the whole house was doing their part. It wasn’t fair that she - that we - are stuck doing ALL the work. “Lord, don’t you care?
...help me!”
You know what he tells this woman...
He says, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one.”
And then he told her all she’d chosen to do first was wrong and instead, something else was better.
Sitting at his feet was better.
Just listening to what he said was better.
And doing that first was better.
What!!
How!
When!
FIRST?
Yes, first.
Here’s what Jesus knows; when we’re so busy taking care of everything and everyone else, then we’re left with the scraps.
When life is so full already any moments at the end are leftovers.
And leftovers won’t sustain us.
Sister, you are worth more than scraps and leftovers.
Leftovers and scraps aren’t a portion size, it’s scarcity.
Jesus didn’t come to bring us scarcity he came to bring us life and have it to the full.”
John 10:10b.
Jesus brings abundance.
When Jesus approaches the Samaritan woman he says, he can give her living water, that she would never be thirsty again...
And Psalms 1:2-3 says those who meditate on his [word] day and night. That person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither— whatever they do prospers.”
Ah...always enough, abundance, and prosperity sounds much better than leftovers and scraps.
Dear one, you cannot pour from an empty cup...you pour from one that has something in it to give.
Trade the end of your frazzling empty rope for the living water at the end of His.
Trade the life of ‘I can’t take one more thing’ for the thing that makes the difference. Jesus.
Maybe the one more thing won't break you, maybe it will hold you up.
Make time for Jesus he holds us together so we can show up for others.
So you can pick the leftovers. The scraps, the busyness and be empty and drained and exhausted never having enough of yourself, or
you can choose the living water. The daily bread. The sustaining strength of Jesus.
What is your choice?
Will you say YES to the ONE THING that matters?
Not sure where to start? Contact me to see if coaching can help you become more like Mary and less like Martha.
You are worth more than scraps and leftovers.
Abundant life is waiting for you.
Will you take it?
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